refactor(core): Postgres template databases for sub-second branch reset

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Summary

Lane B (Issue #1): refactor the Docker branch provider so `sow branch reset` runs in well under 1.5s instead of the current 5-15s.

Architecture change

Before: One Docker container per branch. Reset = `docker rm -f` + `docker run` + `pg_isready` poll + `psql -f init.sql`. Total: 5-15s.

After: One long-lived Docker container per connector, hosting:

• a frozen seed database (`sow_seed_`) with `IS_TEMPLATE=true` and `ALLOW_CONNECTIONS=false`
• N per-branch databases (`sow_`) cloned from the seed via `CREATE DATABASE ... TEMPLATE seed`

Reset is now just:
```sql
DROP DATABASE sow_feature_a WITH (FORCE);
CREATE DATABASE sow_feature_a WITH TEMPLATE sow_seed_myconn OWNER sow;
```
That's ~200-800ms on a 10k-row schema — roughly 10x faster than the old container-recycle path. Container boot cost is amortized across every branch for the connector instead of being paid on every reset.

What changed

• New low-level helpers in `branching/docker.ts` (`createConnectorContainer`, `waitForConnectorReady`, `execSqlInDb`, `loadInitSqlIntoDb`, `dumpDatabase`, `restoreDumpToDatabase`, `listDatabases`).
• `DockerBranchProvider` rewritten around per-connector `container.json` metadata (stored at `.sow/snapshots//container.json`).
• `providerMetaVersion: 2` with explicit, actionable migration error for v1 branches: "Run `sow branch delete ` and recreate the branch." (Option A from the plan — safer than transparent migration for v0.2.)
• `stopBranch` becomes per-branch connection termination via `pg_terminate_backend` (the container is shared so stopping it would kill sibling branches). `startBranch` verifies the container is up and re-starts it if it was stopped at the docker level.
• `deleteBranch` drops the database with `WITH (FORCE)` and tears the container down only when the last non-seed branch is gone, so we don't leak idle Postgres processes.
• `manager.resetBranch` no longer special-cases docker by recreating the branch — the in-place reset preserves the connection string, port, and metadata.
• All dynamic SQL goes through `quoteIdent`. Connector and branch names are validated against `/^[a-zA-Z0-9_-]{1,40}$/` to prevent injection through the connector name itself. `CREATE/DROP DATABASE` calls are issued outside any transaction (Postgres requires this).
• CLI `sow branch info` now displays the database and container names so users can understand the new model.

Tests

• 7 new unit tests in `packages/core/src/branching/providers/docker.test.ts` with mocked docker helpers, covering: first-branch container creation, second-branch container reuse, unsafe-name rejection, reset issues DROP+CREATE, deleteBranch leaves container when other branches remain, deleteBranch removes container when last branch is deleted, v1-meta migration rejection.
• 1 BUGSTER_DB_URL-gated integration benchmark in `reset-perf.integration.test.ts` asserting that a real reset on the bugsterdb fixture completes in < 1500ms.
• All 89 pre-existing tests still pass (96/96 total).

Test plan

• `bunx vitest run` — 96/96 passing
• `bunx turbo build` — clean
• `bunx eslint` on touched files — clean
• `BUGSTER_DB_URL=postgresql://... bunx vitest run --config vitest.integration.config.ts` — manually verify <1500ms reset against a live 10k-row schema

Migration story

Branches created by older sow versions have a v1 `providerMeta` shape (`{ containerId, containerName, pgVersion }` with no `databaseName`). Any operation on such a branch now throws a clear error instructing the user to delete and recreate the branch. This is safer than auto-migrating because the old per-branch containers would need to be torn down and the user's port assignments may shift.

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