Remove paused lifecycle writes from SDKs and CLI

[dimavrem22]

Decisions

• Release the lifecycle-write cleanup as patch version 0.5.5 because 0.5.4 is already immutable on the package registries.
• Require an allow/block action for every contact-rule update.
• Keep parsing existing paused response values for backward compatibility.

Changes

• Removes lifecycle status from identity and contact-rule write APIs in the Python, TypeScript, and Rust SDKs.
• Removes the matching CLI status flags and makes contact-rule action required.
• Bumps Python, TypeScript, Rust, and CLI from 0.5.4 to 0.5.5 in lockstep.
• Updates manifests, lockfiles, TypeScript and CLI version constants, and the CLI dependency on @inkbox/sdk to ^0.5.5.
• Moves this source-breaking change into a new 0.5.5 root changelog entry and adds matching package changelog entries.
• Removes stale Python, TypeScript, Rust, and CLI guidance that suggested pausing a contact rule through update.
• Uses the exported TypeScript contact-rule action and match-type enums throughout the public skill and README examples.
• Keeps Python lint checks on the validated Ruff 0.15 release series.
• Refreshes public SDK docs, CLI docs, bundled skills, and contract tests.

Verification

• Python: Ruff clean; 924 passed, 3 skipped.
• TypeScript: build passed; 945 passed, 3 skipped.
• Rust: format and Clippy clean; 189 default-feature tests passed; 251 tunnels-runtime tests passed; 2 doc tests passed, 1 ignored.
• CLI: build passed; 55 tests passed.
• TypeScript contact-rule skill examples passed a strict standalone typecheck against the current SDK exports.
• A clean Python development install selected Ruff 0.15.22, passed lint, and passed 67 focused contract tests.
• Version consistency checks passed across all manifests, lockfiles, generated constants, and the CLI SDK dependency.
• Python lock validation and Rust locked metadata validation passed.
• Python wheel/sdist, TypeScript package, CLI package, and Rust package dry-run checks passed.
• Stale pause-guidance scan and git diff --check passed.
• GitHub unit jobs passed for Python, TypeScript, and Rust; development and beta integration jobs passed for Python, TypeScript, and CLI.

Related public integration updates

• OpenClaw: Make contact-rule updates action-only openclaw-plugin#41
• Hermes: Remove paused contact-rule guidance hermes-agent-plugin#69
• OpenCode: Remove paused contact-rule guidance opencode-plugin#7

Related core stack

• Servers: https://github.com/inkbox-ai/servers/pull/378
• Customer Console: https://github.com/inkbox-ai/console/pull/212
• Website: https://github.com/inkbox-ai/website/pull/147